WOW, I am so grateful for you. It’s been a really busy month and I have been stretch thin, and I notice how when tired, or frustrated, or just plain busy I fall short of responding in ways that matter to me. How about you, what circumstances set you up for falling short? While I realize that most of my suffering isn’t caused by circumstances, but rather by how I respond or act, I also see that I could be more responsible for setting up circumstances that support my health, well-being, kindness, and overall growth. You know what I mean 

For example, if I don’t get enough sleep, I’ve set myself up, especially if it is a few nights in a row. Or if I don’t have quiet time, solitude, I can get cranky or irritable. So, take a look at how you can set yourself up for the best version of you to arise.  It’s a good place to start. 

Now, what about those times when you haven’t set yourself up to win, or can’t seem to, then this is where forgiveness comes in. 

I don’t know about you but I usually catch my errors after the fact, now I”m getting better and I catch them sooner than I used to, but all the same, it is after they have happened. While I used to beat myself up over them, now I simply acknowledged my shortcoming and then apologize and ask for forgiveness (if it involves someone else) and it usually does, and that someone is usually someone I care for and love. 

I also forgive myself, not by making excuses or justifications but simply by recognizing I let something get in the way of my love and recommitting to do better next time.I usually take a deep breath and feel my disappointment and then also let myself feel just how much I care about that person as the love floods in the sorrow flow out. 

Try it. 

I can’t feel both at the same time, so letting myself really embrace the sadness or whatever your emotion is on the inhale and when you exhale put your attention on how you wanted to express yourself or on what you wanted to leave the other person with, or simply how much you care about them and are grateful for them See if you can’t feel the exchange of energies. 

Recognizing that we all fall short, that we all miss the mark of love on a daily basis isn’t a way of making an excuse but rather a reality check-inpho and an acceptance of the work we are doing to be more kind more thoughtful, more patient, more considerate or more loving. Whatever your more is, falling short is simply a measure of both how far you have come and that there is still room for growth. 

So as I sign off and until next time, breathe, and be kind to yourself, and others.  When you fall short forgive yourself and recognize that you are on a journey, you have come a long way and you are still moving forward.